"Why can't people just eat healthier and stop eating junk?"
"Why can't you just exercise more?"
"Why can't you just go to bed earlier and stop scrolling social media?"
These are statements I have heard from well-intentioned friends and colleagues over the years.
They can't understand why people just can't get their proverbial "stuff" together.
I knew these people would never be good coaches. It's black or white with them.
One of the most important qualities that I have learned to develop over the last 17 years of Personal training and coaching is to be more empathetic and not judge people for their choices.
Because every behaviour is an attempt to solve a problem.
Even if that behaviour, like eating ice cream at 10 pm, or scrolling social media during work, is not a productive solution, it's still the strategy that people are using to solve the problem they have.
You might be eating foods that make you gain weight at certain times and days of the week and you know it doesn't support your fitness goals but in those moments you may be hungry, tired, stressed or just disappointed you aren't further along in your career.
Being overweight or unfit is the secondary problem here. You reward yourself with junk food or wine when you feel down.
The overweight, unfit thing takes a back seat.
This is why I cannot judge clients or make them feel ashamed. It leads to no improvement.
My job is to find ways to help them manage their hunger or find alternative ways to avoid getting into the junk food rabbit hole.
Do not judge your friend's unhealthy habits.
People are always looking to solve a problem or move away from discomfort with behaviours.
Ultimately I have to find ways to make healthy behaviours easy to do and rewarding. That's how coaching works.
I hope this makes you think twice about judging people's "unhealthy habits"
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